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Incident Reporting
and Procedure


When to submit a grievance or incident

  • You have experienced and or witnessed a consent violation at anSPR event (online or in person) from an Attendee, facilitator, co facilitator, helper or SPR leadership

  • Other- Our intention is to create a safe, welcoming, fun environment for everyone. If there is something that is preventing this from occurring we would like to know. 

How to submit a grievance



Once received, it will be reviewed. We will contact you to let you know we have received it. Some possible next steps:

  • Set up a call or meeting

  • Take action to amend 

  • Invite neutral 3rd party to mediate 

  • If the survivor opts out of a RJ process, the process shifts to one of community accountability.


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We are a  community based on love and connection.

We believe that when we are in relationships with others, It is not a matter of if trust is broken, it is a matter of when. We are all human beings and we understand

that we all make mistakes.

We believe in giving people the opportunity to make amends and participate in restorative justice.


We are all victims, sometimes. We are all perpetrators, sometimes.

At SPR our goal is to allow repair. By letting go of perfectionism and accepting this fact, we will acknowledge impact and move through the process of repair into restored relationships and community. 

We aim to be non-idealized leaders, who can acknowledge harm and restore wholeness to our communities and ourselves.

 Accountability process

(Based on Reid Milhalko and everyone who contributed to his process;

 Accountability process. We have so much Grattitude to all who helped)


  1. Report

  2. Support pods for both parties 

  • possible Therapist, support group or mentor 

  1. Green: Anonymous reporting collection

  2. Present report to purple 

  3. Amends process 

  4. Reintegration rebuilding trust 

What is Restorative Justice?

“…restorative justice“ an alternative to the criminal justice system that emphasizes perpetrators taking responsibility for the harm they cause and actively working to make amends to everyone impacted.” ~Mahealani Joy

What is Transformative Justice?

While TJ shares similar goals with RJ, and the terms are sometimes used inter-changeably, for me, TJ focuses on addressing and transforming the dynamics and conditions that allowed a harm to be possible in the first place. Amends making to those harmed is not always possible, but transformation of transgressors”™ behaviors and community dynamics may be. Thus, making amends isn”™t the focus nor a requirement for TJ in the same way that it is for RJ.  (Reid Milhako)


Crime, criminal justice:

  • based in punishment 

  • based on an opinion of what is evil, shameful, wrong, legal (who makes the laws? Standards?)

  • Crime is behavior, either by act or omission, defined by statutory or common law as deserving of punishment or penalty. Although most crimes require the element of intent, certain minor crimes may be committed based on strict liability even if the defendant had no specific mindset with regard to the criminal action. › wex

crime | Wex | US Law | LII / Legal Information Institute


Cancel Culture 

  • Cancel culture is a phenomenon in which those who are deemed to have acted or spoken in an unacceptable manner are ostracized, boycotted or shunned.

  •  This shunning may extend to social or professional circles—whether on social media or in person—with most high-profile incidents involving celebrities.

  • › wiki Cancel culture - Wikipedia

Why alternatives to cancel culture and criminal justice?

Stacie Ysidro 

These concepts are based on perfectionism, opinion, schism, shame and punishment.

Most of the time, these values are completely inconsistent with the community's values, mission and vision.

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