Creating a Safe Container
Updated: Apr 4
Updated March 2023
All people are welcome: We are an inclusive, non judgmental space. All races, gender identities, sexual orientations, relationship orientation or status, religions, cultures over 18 years of age are welcome.
Attendance of one of our events, whether online or in person, you are agreeing to Creating a Safe Container by practicing:
Visit our website for our policy on grievances/incidents and the process of reporting and repairing https://www.stpeteretreat.com/incidentreportingprocess
And our mission statement https://www.stpeteretreat.com/about
Consent is a YES or NO. Consider Maybe a NO
It is freely given, without coercion or force or uncertainty
Your YES can become a NO but your NO cannot become a YES in the set container
Giving information to others so they can consent
Asking questions when needed to make sure you are in full consent
Always ASK Before giving feedback or offering advice
Always ASK Before touching someone
Always ASK Before sharing someone’s story or experience
Reply to a NO with “Thank You for taking care of yourself”
I can’t trust your YES if I haven't felt your NO
Amsterdam Rules (within this 10ft)
Share your experience, not other people’s (unless you have consent)
‘My experience of this was___’
When having an issue or concern address person directly (when can be done safely) and speak to a SPR team member (class facilitator or owners Johnny and Stacie email@example.com )
Staying present in the moment
Our minds will naturally wander. Let’s raise our awareness to these moments and bring ourselves back
Example: When you are training a puppy to pee on a pad, he pees in the corner, bring him back to the puppy pad
Turn off any distractions (phone, apple watch, etc.)
Caring for ourselves
something is triggering you and you need support
Caring for the space
keep the place tidy
leave it how you found it
Caring for your psychology
practice compassion for yourself and others in their experience
don’t yuck someone else’s yum
If you feel unsafe or have had a negative experience please email SPR owners (Stacie, Johnny info@Stpeteretreat.com or use our anonymous contact form https://forms.gle/61owXdHayPxF55sx5 )
about what occurred and how the situation can be amended.
We are a very diverse group. Most content can be seen as sensitive, taboo and vulnerable.
Notice when you check out or are triggered…use curiosity to come back into presence without judgment of self and others.
We learn more from curiosity and play than judgment and criticism.
This is a co-created experience
In order for you to get the most out of the experience, we encourage you to participate
If you have a question, ask! There are no stupid questions.
Whatever is up for you, there may be others who feel the same way, and do not have the courage to say it.
We encourage everyone to speak into what’s going on.
Celebrate that you are here! YAY!
Celebrate even small wins!
When one celebrates, we ALL celebrate! (Queue them to Celebrate)
When one person heals, we all heal
Thank you everyone for creating a safe community where we can talk about and learn about our sexuality. It’s going to be a great day!