Creating a Safe Container

Container Agreements

Updated March 2023

• All people are welcome: We are an inclusive, non judgmental space. All races, gender identities, sexual orientations, relationship orientation or status, religions, cultures over 18 years of age are welcome.

• Attendance of one of our events, whether online or in person, you are agreeing to Creating a Safe Container by practicing:

• Personal Responsibility

• Visit our website for our policy on grievances/incidents and the process of reporting and repairing https://www.stpeteretreat.com/incidentreportingprocess

• And our mission statement https://www.stpeteretreat.com/about

Consent

• Consent is a YES or NO. Consider Maybe a NO

• It is freely given, without coercion or force or uncertainty

• Your YES can become a NO but your NO cannot become a YES in the set container

• Giving information to others so they can consent

• Asking questions when needed to make sure you are in full consent

• Always ASK Before giving feedback or offering advice

• Always ASK Before touching someone

• Always ASK Before sharing someone’s story or experience

• Reply to a NO with “Thank You for taking care of yourself”

• Celebrate NO’s

• I can’t trust your YES if I haven't felt your NO

Confidentiality

• Vegas Rules

• Amsterdam Rules (within this 10ft)

• Share your experience, not other people’s (unless you have consent)

  • ‘My experience of this was___’

• When having an issue or concern address person directly (when can be done safely) and speak to a SPR team member (class facilitator or owners Johnny and Stacie info@stpeteretreat.com )

Consciousness

• Staying present in the moment

• Our minds will naturally wander. Let’s raise our awareness to these moments and bring ourselves back

  • Example: When you are training a puppy to pee on a pad, he pees in the corner, bring him back to the puppy pad

  • Turn off any distractions (phone, apple watch, etc.)

Care

• Caring for ourselves

• Bathroom breaks

• water

• something is triggering you and you need support

• Caring for the space

  • Trash cans

  • keep the place tidy

  • leave it how you found it

• Caring for your psychology

• practice compassion for yourself and others in their experience

• practice non-judgement

• don’t yuck someone else’s yum

• If you feel unsafe or have had a negative experience please email SPR owners (Stacie, Johnny info@Stpeteretreat.com or use our anonymous contact form https://forms.gle/61owXdHayPxF55sx5 )

about what occurred and how the situation can be amended.

Curiosity

• We are a very diverse group. Most content can be seen as sensitive, taboo and vulnerable.

• Notice when you check out or are triggered…use curiosity to come back into presence without judgment of self and others.

• We learn more from curiosity and play than judgment and criticism.

Contribution

• This is a co-created experience

• In order for you to get the most out of the experience, we encourage you to participate

• If you have a question, ask! There are no stupid questions.

• Whatever is up for you, there may be others who feel the same way, and do not have the courage to say it.

• We encourage everyone to speak into what’s going on.

Celebrations

• Celebrate that you are here! YAY!

• Celebrate even small wins!

• When one celebrates, we ALL celebrate! (Queue them to Celebrate)

• When one person heals, we all heal

Thank you everyone for creating a safe community where we can talk about and learn about our sexuality. It’s going to be a great day!