Creating a Safe Container

Container Agreements

By showing up at one of our events, whether online or in person, you are agreeing to the following:

Consent

Consent is a YES or NO. Consider Maybe a NO

It is freely given, without coercion or force or uncertainty

Your YES can become a NO but your NO cannot become a YES

Saying something specific and getting all the details

Always ASK Before giving feedback or offering advice

Always ASK Before touching someone

Always ASK Before sharing someone’s story or experience

Reply to a NO with “Thank You for taking care of yourself”

Celebrate NO’s

I can’t trust your YES if you never have NO

Confidentiality

Vegas Rules

Amsterdam Rules (within this 10ft)

Share your experience, not other people’s (unless you have consent)

‘My experience of this was___’

Consciousness

Staying present in the moment

Our minds will naturally wander. Let’s raise our awareness to these moments and bring ourselves back

Example: When you are training a puppy to pee on a pad, he pees in the corner, bring him back to the puppy pad

Turn off any distractions (phone, apple watch, etc.)

Care

Caring for ourselves

Bathroom breaks

water

something is triggering you and you need support

Caring for the space

Trash cans

keep the place tidy

leave it how you found it

Caring for your psychology

practice compassion for yourself and others in their experience

practice non-judgement

don’t yuck someone else’s yum

Contribution

This is a co-created experience

In order for you to get the most out of the experience, we encourage you to participate

If you have a question, ask! There are no stupid questions.

Whatever is up for you, there may be others who feel the same way, and do not have the courage to say it. We encourage everyone to speak into what’s going on.

Celebrations

Celebrate that you are here! YAY!

Celebrate even small wins!

When one celebrates, we ALL celebrate! (Queue them to Celebrate)

When one person heals, we all heal

Thank you everyone for creating a safe community where we can talk about and learn about our sexuality. It’s going to be a great day!