Couples Massage for improving Intimacy, Relaxation and Connection

How to use couples massage for improving intimacy, relaxation and connection.

Are you the kind of person who needs to relax first before stepping into pleasure? 

Or do you find that pleasure is your path to unwinding and relieving stress? 

Learning massage techniques for couples you and your partner will strengthen your connection, reduce stress, and enjoy intimacy on your own terms. We also have a few other tips for creating clear understanding and deeper connection with your partner.

Many couples experience a difference in how they approach intimacy and relaxation, often with one partner needing relaxation before feeling open to intimacy, while the other views intimacy as a way to unwind. 

Creating a feeling of separation or of incompatibility. These differences are normal and can be managed with new information, open communication and intentional practices. 

In this post, we’ll give you creative ideas for body relaxation and intimate connection. What you choose to do after you practice is up to you

One of the most common challenges and relationships is the match of a sexual blueprint type and a sensual or energetic blueprint type.

Many times I hear couples in this situation say they fear incompatibility with their partner. 

As if they are speaking a different language when it comes to arousal and pleasure.  Usually presenting as a mismatched desire, one person wants to have sex to relax and ease tension. The other person needs to relax first in order to step into a sexual space.

Another common theme I've noticed among couples is the association of any type of touch with an expectation of sex. 

For many couples, understanding each partner's relaxation needs, meaning of touch and experience of pleasure is key to a healthy relationship. 

Consensual touch is one of the simplest ways to communicate with our partner and offer support in a variety of situations. Our understanding and experience of touch has been often misunderstood and limited. 

Many couples experience the expectation that any form of touch will lead to intimacy. This can make some partners reluctant to engage in non-sexual touch, fearing it might lead to unmet expectations. However, touch can also be a powerful, non-sexual way to build connection and trust, allowing both partners to bond without any pressure.

There are many different types of touches we can give and receive with a variety of intentions. For example accidental touch , therapeutic, healing touch , non-consensual touch, consensual touch, platonic, playful, sensual, sexual and erotic touch….

The meaning we give, the stories we tell ourselves and the associations that we have, with all of these different types of touches contributes to our present experience.  

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All of these situations are completely understandable based on our social conditioning, personal upbringing, experience and our own creative process. 

If these things sound common in your relationship,

In blueprint language: one of you might be a sexual blueprint and one of you might be an energetic or sensual blueprint. Learning more about couples massage for improved intimacy will help expand your experience and understanding of different types of touch. in addition to connecting in new ways.

Embody it!

Tips for easy wins:

Now that this has been established, we will offer you a few hot tips you can use now and

an invitation for you to dive deeper.

Discover your unique Erotic Blueprint types.

Understanding each other’s blueprint creates deeper intimacy, a safe space to connect in new ways. ( Take the Blueprint quiz to learn more.)

In most relationships, there’s usually at least one partner who needs more time to relax into their body before they are ready to be in a sexual space. 

For others, sexual expression is how they like to relax. Recognizing these differences can be transformative for couples who feel mismatched in their desires. One partner might need time, space, and relaxation to open up, while the other feels a desire to connect physically first to let go of stress.

• Sensual and Energetic blueprint types may need to relax first in order to step into pleasure. While Sexual types de-stress by stepping into pleasure.

  
  

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Know how you relax and down regulate.

Recognize that each partner may have different ways of relaxing and connecting. Couples can also explore self-care routines and rituals that help each person unwind on their own terms.

• Set aside time each day for each of you to unwind individually. This can mean taking a few minutes to stretch, sing, take a shower, or just lie down for a moment. For those with a sexual blueprint, a few minutes alone can even include a self-care moment like self-pleasure to feel relaxed and refreshed.

• Create a ritual or routine that feeds/cares for yourself first, so you are open to receive and be present

Reconnect through eye contact and breath simple exercises

like eye contact/gazing, breathing together, and expressing appreciation can deepen connection.

• Take 15 seconds at different times of day to simply look into each other’s eyes. Take a couple of deep breaths together. You may stand separately or hold hands and see each other as conscious beings with choice. Tell each other something you love about them. Then say thank you. 

Break assumptions about touch

Not all touch has to lead to sex; learning platonic, sensual and therapeutic touch can enhance trust and closeness without expectation. Practice Different Types of Touch:

•  Set aside time for non-sexual touch—whether it’s a therapeutic, a gentle hand on the shoulder, or a hug. This practice of connection doesn’t have to lead to anything more and allows both of you to feel close without any pressure.

Many of us don't have experience with all of the different types of touches that are available to us. If you would like more guidance and instruction, we have an invitation for you. 

Learn easy in-depth ways of exploring touch for relaxation for every blueprint type,

by attending our 

Couples Sensual Massage Class

with Melania and Madhava. 

There is only 1  workshop  left in 2024!

This is the perfect date night, gift or reason to get out of the house!

Couples Sensual Massage Class

You will learn relaxational breathing, effective therapeutic massage and touch techniques that relieve tension and stress and the body. Instead of a massage table, you lay on a mat or flat surface, while the giver manipulates the receiver's body in certain ways to stimulate organs, release  trigger points, soften muscles and improve flexibility.

Couple's Sensual  Massage, is a couples massage workshop that teaches hands-on methods to relieve body tension, reduce stress, strengthen emotional connection, and support an embodied balanced relationship dynamic. (tickets on Eventbrite)

Melania and Madhava

In conclusion, these are just some of the ways that you can improve intimacy, induce relaxation, and strengthen connection between partners. By investing time in understanding each other’s blueprint types and incorporating simple practices will expand your understanding and capacity for pleasure, relaxation and intimacy. To learn more ways to connect and improve intimacy contact us today.